{"id":4924,"date":"2019-02-11T08:06:18","date_gmt":"2019-02-11T07:06:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/?p=4924"},"modified":"2023-06-07T21:28:21","modified_gmt":"2023-06-07T20:28:21","slug":"nespokojeni-se-stanou-spokojenymi-5","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/?p=4924","title":{"rendered":"Nespokojen\u00ed se stanou spokojen\u00fdmi &#8211; 5"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>(Pokra\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed)<\/p>\n<p>Nespokojenost m\u00e1 n\u011bkolik ko\u0159en\u016f:<\/p>\n<p>1. P\u00fdcha. P\u00fdcha se nespokoj\u00ed s ni\u010d\u00edm men\u0161\u00edm ne\u017e s uct\u00edv\u00e1n\u00edm sebe samotn\u00e9. Pokud se j\u00ed toho\u00a0 nedost\u00e1v\u00e1 je nespokojen\u00e1. Projevuje se to kritick\u00fdm pohledem na v\u0161echno, co d\u011blaj\u00ed druz\u00ed. Nen\u00ed mo\u017en\u00e9 pro ni se stoto\u017enit s jin\u00fdm n\u00e1zorem, ne\u017e jak\u00fd m\u00e1 ona. Nen\u00ed pro ni mo\u017en\u00e9 se pod\u0159\u00eddit a p\u0159ijmout ani stejn\u00fd n\u00e1zor, pokud nevy\u0161el z n\u00ed. Z toho plyne ve\u0161ker\u00e1 jej\u00ed nespokojenost a\u0165 v zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00ed, doma v c\u00edrkvi a dokonce i p\u0159i z\u00e1bav\u011b. V\u011bt\u0161ina cestovatel\u016f ze zam\u011bstn\u00e1ni do zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00ed, z c\u00edrkve do c\u00edrkve je pr\u00e1v\u011b posti\u017eena t\u00edmto druhem nespokojenosti. Hledaj\u00ed zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00ed podle sv\u00fdch p\u0159edstav a postaven\u00ed v n\u011bm, podle sv\u00e9ho ohodnocen\u00ed sebe sama, kter\u00e9 je v\u017edy mnohem vy\u0161\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e odpov\u00edd\u00e1 skute\u010dnosti. To plat\u00ed tak\u00e9 na zp\u016fsob veden\u00ed \u017eivota v c\u00edrkvi a dokonce i rodiny. Je schopn\u00e1 dlouhodob\u011b vydr\u017eet jen tehdy, kdy\u017e v\u0161e kolem n\u00ed bude jen podle n\u00ed. Pova\u017euje se za n\u011bco v\u00fdj\u00edme\u010dn\u00e9ho a do\u017eaduje se i v\u00fdjme\u010dn\u00e9ho postaven\u00ed a zach\u00e1zen\u00ed. Pokud nevede a nehraje prim, pak je nespokoken\u00e1\u00a0 ale i toto dlouho nevydr\u017e\u00ed, proto\u017ee se za\u010dne ohl\u00ed\u017eet a vid\u00ed, \u017ee jsou dal\u0161\u00ed vedouc\u00ed&#8230;\u00a0 Takov\u00fdch py\u0161n\u00fdch nespokojenc\u016f &#8211; cestovatel\u016f, jsme za\u017eili des\u00edtky.<\/p>\n<p>2. Z\u00e1vist. Z\u00e1vist je a\u017e \u017eivotu nebezpe\u010dn\u00e1. Z\u00e1vist dok\u00e1\u017ee i zab\u00edjet. Z\u00e1vist dok\u00e1\u017ee z\u00e1vid\u011bt v\u0161echno. Majetek, \u00fasp\u011bch nebo po\u017eehn\u00e1n\u00ed, obdarov\u00e1n\u00ed, pozornost, postaven\u00ed, p\u0159\u00e1telstvi&#8230; Pro\u010d on, pro\u010d ona, pro\u010d oni a ne j\u00e1. Z\u00e1vist za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 \u010dasto u sl\u016fvka pro\u010d. Bu\u010f se pova\u017euje, za nedocen\u011bnou &#8211; j\u00e1 taky pracuji stejn\u011b jako oni, mo\u017en\u00e1 i v\u00edce, tak pro\u010d oni a ne j\u00e1, j\u00e1 nejsem hor\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e ostatn\u00ed, tak pro\u010d oni a ne j\u00e1, j\u00e1 jsem byl nejv\u00edce ochotn\u00fd, tak pro\u010d ne j\u00e1, ale oni. V ka\u017ed\u00e9m sboru, do kter\u00e9ho jsme byli poslan\u00ed, jsme narazili na tuto z\u00e1vist. A\u0165 ji\u017e, \u017ee n\u011bkter\u00fd z koleg\u016f n\u00e1m z\u00e1vid\u011bl p\u0159\u00edze\u0148, nebo p\u0159i\u0161el ihned n\u011bkter\u00fd sborovn\u00edk a vysv\u011btloval, jak se na n\u011bho v\u017edy zapom\u00ednalo p\u0159i rozd\u011blov\u00e1ni odpov\u011bdnost\u00ed a on p\u0159itom v\u017edy v\u011brn\u011b st\u00e1l za pastorem, byl ten jedin\u00fd, kdo ve sboru pracoval&#8230; na konci dodal, \u017ee v\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee nejsme tak nespravedliv\u00ed jako ti p\u0159edchoz\u00ed. Z\u00e1vist pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 i druhou stranu. Tedy n\u00e1rok, proto\u017ee je nejpot\u0159ebn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, nejchud\u0161\u00ed, nejnemocn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, nejslab\u0161\u00ed, prost\u011b nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00ed chudinkou. \u0158\u00edk\u00e1 si: ti soused\u00e9 st\u00e1le n\u011bco dost\u00e1vaj\u00ed, kupuj\u00ed a p\u0159itom toho maj\u00ed dost, pro\u010d n\u00e1m nikdo nic ned\u00e1, nen\u00ed s n\u00e1mi, pro\u010d jen my nejsme po\u017eehnan\u00ed, to nen\u00ed spravedliv\u00e9, v\u017edy\u0165 my jsme ti pot\u0159ebn\u00ed. Oni si kupuj\u00ed zbyte\u010dnosti a j\u00e1 nic nem\u00e1m&#8230; Z\u00e1vist si dok\u00e1\u017ee v\u017edy zd\u016fvodnit, pro\u010d tou\u017e\u00ed a chce v\u011bci druh\u00fdch. A i kdy\u017e je dostane, stejn\u011b se nestane spokojenou, proto\u017ee je st\u00e1le co z\u00e1vid\u011bt. Z\u00e1vist rozb\u00edji vztahy v rodin\u00e1ch, v c\u00edrkvi, v zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00ed, v\u0161ude a pokud se s n\u00ed v \u010das nejedn\u00e1 stup\u0148uje do takov\u00e9 m\u00edry, \u017ee za\u010dne d\u011blat naschv\u00e1ly, intriky, pomluvy, p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed rozbroje a m\u016f\u017ee se uch\u00fdlit k vra\u017ed\u011b. Z\u00e1vist vyh\u00e1n\u00ed ze spole\u010denstv\u00ed do samoty, proto\u017ee ve spole\u010denstvi se nezam\u011b\u0159uje na l\u00e1sku a vztahy, ale jen pozoruje, co kdo m\u00e1 v\u00edce ne\u017e ona. Pokud to uvid\u00ed, pak se nedok\u00e1\u017ee soust\u0159edit na nic jin\u00e9ho. No a v\u017edy je co vid\u011bt. I kdy\u017e dostane to, co z\u00e1vid\u00ed, stejn\u011b je d\u00e1l nespokojen\u00e1, proto\u017ee nedok\u00e1\u017ee vid\u011bt, co dostala. Jej\u00ed o\u010di jsou zam\u011b\u0159en\u00e9 jen na to, co maj\u00ed druz\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>3. \u017d\u00e1rlivost. \u017d\u00e1rlivost je na prvn\u00ed pohled podobn\u00e1 z\u00e1visti. \u017d\u00e1rlivost m\u016f\u017ee \u017e\u00e1rlit tak\u00e9 na v\u0161e. Rozd\u00edl je v tom, \u017ee \u017e\u00e1rlivost tou\u017e\u00ed n\u011bco vlastnit jen a jen pro sebe. V\u011bci i vztahy. Z\u00e1vist tou\u017e\u00ed po tom, co maj\u00ed druz\u00ed, chce m\u00edt stejn\u00e9 nebo podobn\u00e9, ale \u017e\u00e1rlivost ty v\u011bci druh\u00fdch chce vlastnit. Nechce m\u00edt stejn\u00e9, ale chce vlastnit p\u0159esn\u011b tu konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed v\u011bc, vztah, \u010dlov\u011bka a nechce, aby to nebo je m\u011bl n\u011bkdo jim\u00fd. Stejn\u011b jako u z\u00e1visti dok\u00e1\u017ee doj\u00edt i k vra\u017ed\u011b, aby se stala jedin\u00fdm majitelem.\u00a0 Pokud n\u011bkomu z\u00e1vid\u00edm postaven\u00ed, z\u00e1vist se spokoj\u00ed s t\u00edm, \u017ee z\u00edsk\u00e1 stejn\u00e9 postaven\u00ed n\u011bkde jinde. \u017d\u00e1rlivost ne. Ta tou\u017ei po tom konkr\u00e9tn\u00edm va\u0161em postaven\u00ed a d\u011bl\u00e1 v\u0161e, aby ho z\u00edskala. Nebo se uvnit\u0159 u\u017e\u00edr\u00e1, ale stejn\u011b to vyjde d\u0159\u00edve nebo pozd\u011bji najevo. \u017d\u00e1rlivost je mnohem nebezpe\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e z\u00e1vist. Jeji my\u0161len\u00ed \u010dasto funguje na: kdy\u017e to nemohu m\u00edt j\u00e1, tak nikdo.<\/p>\n<p>4. Nevd\u011b\u010dnost. Nedostatek vd\u011bku prov\u00e1z\u00ed v\u0161echny p\u0159edchoz\u00ed ko\u0159eny nespokojenosti. Nevd\u011b\u010dnost je tmavou rou\u0161kou na o\u010d\u00edch. Nevd\u011b\u010dnost je slep\u00e1 k tomu, co v\u0161echno jsme ji\u017e obdr\u017eeli. Projevuje se p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm tam, kde je z\u00e1vist, ale i p\u00fdcha. Nevd\u011b\u010dnost je tak\u00e9 nedostatek d\u016fv\u011bry tam, kde k tomu nem\u00e1me d\u016fvod. Dok\u00e1\u017eeme mo\u017en\u00e1 projevit d\u00edky a vd\u011b\u010dnost ve chv\u00edli, kdy n\u011bco dostaneme, kdy n\u00e1m n\u011bkdo pom\u016f\u017ee, ale ta se ztr\u00e1c\u00ed ihned, kdy\u017e se dostaneme op\u011bk do nedostatku. To, \u017ee n\u00e1m n\u011bkdo p\u0159edt\u00edm pomohl pro n\u00e1s nen\u00ed d\u00favodem k d\u016fv\u011b\u0159e, \u017ee se nemus\u00edme strachovat, ale jen cestou k tomu, abychom si po n\u011bm op\u011bt vy\u017eadovali pomoc. Kdy\u017e ji nedostaneme, zapom\u00edn\u00e1me, \u017ee n\u00e1m n\u011bkdy pomohl. Na\u0161e vd\u011b\u010dnost je pry\u010d. Pro mnoho lid\u00ed, kter\u00e9 potk\u00e1v\u00e1m je vd\u011b\u010dnost n\u011bco, co rychle pom\u00edj\u00ed. Vydr\u017e\u00ed jen do prvn\u00edch starost\u00ed a probl\u00e9m\u016f. Nevd\u011b\u010dnost probouz\u00ed z\u00e1vist i \u017e\u00e1rlivost: pro\u010d se v\u011bnujete jin\u00fdm, kdy\u017e j\u00e1 pot\u0159ebuji pomoc. Nikdy mi nepom\u00e1h\u00e1te. Kde jste byli, kdy\u017e jsem pot\u0159eboval pomoc. Kolikr\u00e1t sly\u0161\u00edm tato slova pr\u00e1v\u011b od lid\u00ed, kter\u00fdm bylo nejv\u00edce pom\u00e1h\u00e1no. Vypozoroval jsem, \u017ee \u010d\u00edm v\u00edce pom\u00e1h\u00e1te, a\u0165 ji\u017e v jak\u00e9koli oblasti \u017eivota nevd\u011b\u010dn\u00fdm lidem, t\u00edm v\u00edce roste jejich nevd\u011bk a s n\u00edm i z\u00e1vist a \u017e\u00e1rlivost a t\u00edm i st\u00e1l\u00e1 nespokojenost.<\/p>\n<p>(Pokra\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(Pokra\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed) Nespokojenost m\u00e1 n\u011bkolik ko\u0159en\u016f: 1. P\u00fdcha. P\u00fdcha se nespokoj\u00ed s ni\u010d\u00edm men\u0161\u00edm ne\u017e s uct\u00edv\u00e1n\u00edm sebe samotn\u00e9. Pokud se j\u00ed toho\u00a0 nedost\u00e1v\u00e1 je nespokojen\u00e1. Projevuje se to kritick\u00fdm pohledem na v\u0161echno, co d\u011blaj\u00ed druz\u00ed. Nen\u00ed mo\u017en\u00e9 pro ni se stoto\u017enit s jin\u00fdm n\u00e1zorem, ne\u017e jak\u00fd m\u00e1 ona. Nen\u00ed pro ni mo\u017en\u00e9 se pod\u0159\u00eddit a &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/?p=4924\" class=\"more-link\">Pokra\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed textu <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Nespokojen\u00ed se stanou spokojen\u00fdmi &#8211; 5<\/span> <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4924"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4924"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4924\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4934,"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4924\/revisions\/4934"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4924"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4924"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.josefknoflicek.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4924"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}